Judy Stevens

Blogging and Conflict Resolution



Posted: Wednesday, January 14, 2009

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Blogging and Conflict Resolution I am Chuck Sugar, a Christian Counselor, and I love working with people. I particularly have a passion working with couples in the area of couple communication and conflict resolution. I believe that conflicts, that are resolved in a loving and caring manner, build intimacy, trust, and hope in any relationship. We are not typically taught how to resolve problems with another person without arguing to win. My wife, Teresa, and I have been teaching a couples class at our church since the spring of 2008 and we have seen some amazing things happen when the couples do the work presented in the class. Couples are beginning to resolve conflicts in a loving way for the first time and their marriages are increasing in quality and intimacy.

Alongside my passion to work with couples, I am also having to learn how to blog. Blogging, to me, is the opposite of working with people: I usually do it alone, in a small office, and what I have in my thoughts and experiences are not necessarily easily put down on paperor blog. I can see why it would be a great advantage in teaching couples, not only in a local church setting, but also worldwide. I have found several things to be true worldwide, but the most prevalent one is that couples need to learn how to deal with conflict with one another. Avoiding conflict or arguing without a healthy resolution causes so much damage in the areas of trust, intimacy, romance, fun, friendship, etc. I believe that the journey to greater intimacy is through conflict when is resolved in a loving, caring way.

In reflection on this, I did the unthinkable; I created a blog. It's just a record of thoughts, and lessons we talk about in church, but the funny thing is, the more I write on my blog, the more I can separate the thoughts and create something that we all can use in resolving our conflict.

First, I put together a worksheet to answer a set of similar questions. After creating the worksheet, I created a process chart that shows us the steps needed in resolving conflict in a healthy manner. The chart helps us as couples deal with each issue. It also helps us see our old destructive or unhealthy patterns of behavior and hopefully, in time, we can change those patterns to healthier, more productive, patterns of behavior that allow us to build a marriage that thrives.

So even though blogging is new to me, and not a person-to-person relationship, I can see how blogging can help us learn and help us grow. So, come check out my blog. Send me an email. And while you're at it, download the worksheet and chart on resolving conflict. They are both free and there to help you.

Judy Stevens is a mom, wife and Woman who loves the Lord. She is an internet marketing professional serving clients via globally through the web. Her work can be found via http://www.shootinbull.com.
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» left by straight talk
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What do you do with those who have a mental disorder such as being bi polar? maybe you can write to this because it can drive a normal person nuts as well.
» left by Judy Stevens 3 years 24 days ago.
That is an excellent question. Chuck Sugar needs to answer that directly and you can email him directly off of his website at www dot chucksugar dot com. Let him know about the article you read off of here, and you would like to know more. He would love to hear from his subscribers. Thanks for reading my article. Best of luck, Judy Stevens.
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